Moping
Have fun while there’s fun to be had! Good advice, non?
I tend to mope. I’m not proud of this… but I, oftentimes, focus on the sad end of things. Ryan isn’t like that, really. He’s the “silver lining” and “look at the bright side” kind of guy.
Too bad Ryan is leaving, he does tend to balance out Randie. His ying to her yang. Motion sickness, notwithstanding. But then, yesterday, Brig drops her little, … maybe she’ll find her own strength without Ryan (should he leave)… bomb, in parentheses, no less. Argh.
I’m a moper, and a worrier. I think, in my case, it might be a side effect of wanting to control a situation… Because I’m trying to think of all possible scenarios, and my potential responses to them, that I’m having to “replay the scene” over and over again, and it just makes it all worse.
Also, Brig, I’m sorry about my comment where I hoped not to see Randie upset all the time up to Ryan’s (possible) departure… It’s possibly because I see myself in her behaviour patterns, and I just don’t want it for other people. Naive, I know. *hugs to Brig and Randie*
Ryan is definitely the balancer to Randie’s moods and temperament. Exactly! We’ll see what happens when they are apart from one another… or will we? (I’m sorry…. I can’t give up details… I’ll just let you ponder as to what will happen).
No worries, Astragali. I, too, mope. I, too, replay things in my head until I’m sick. Randie does this to a certain extent… until Ryan comes along and bops her on the head and says something to make her think differently. It’s that balancing thing he does.
I like hugs. Smiling.
Are you saying he’s your hidden optimist?
Astra,
The beautiful thing about writing stories (if you’re a verbal person) or drawing them (if you’re a visual person, as I am) is that they bring focus to your inner control freakishness. You basically create a bunch of characters and proceed to define their behaviors, interactions and thoughts, not to mention controling the outcomes of their actions. I’m putting together 30 such tales, entitled; anxiety, depression, autism, schizophrenia, suicide, obsession, anorexia, attention deficit, domestic violence, assault, co-dependence, reactive-attachment, post traumatic stress, and more, but you get the idea. All are well researched, none use words, and all get regular updates as new information is discovered.
My suggestion, try doing something similar. Pick up a few sketch pads, or a couple reams of printer paper, conjur up a storyline with a given theme you’re familiar with (moping, worrying perhaps?), come up with an opening, and then get drawing frame by frame and just let the story take off on its own, under your ‘control,’ of course. Plan on a story taking at least 50 but more likely a 100 or more frames to completion. Hey, you may never complete it and just keep adding to it. It’s fun, empowering, liberating and gives a great sense of control. Cheers.
brig, Ruth,
Inner optimist? Neat concept.
hugs…
Stick: Wow… I have enough trouble doing more than one panel for my comic 🙂 But it’s still something for me to consider. Thank you!
I worked at two different theme parks over the course of a year and only went on a ride once or twice. The simple truth is that I hate rides. That may seem odd, but it’s true.
It reminds me of the “South Park” episode where Cartman bought himself a theme park; he tries to hire a security guard and pay him with “rides”, only to be completely shocked by the guard’s response (“I don’t like rides”).
Stick… niiiiiice.
Dada… really? So no Matterhorn? no Space Mountain? no Pirates of the Caribbean? Eh… to each his very own.