I think it’s kinda messed up that Squish’s response isn’t ‘don’t make me your life, spend more time with your friends’ and more ‘lets get her a distraction she may not even want so she quits whining’. One should never completely abandon one’s friends simply because of a new romance!
It is standard procedure. It’s also really annoying when they decide that what you need is your own SO to take up your time so you won’t notice your friendship dying.
Sounds to me like Squish is a bit on the possessive side… She went right for Rye-bread the second he was no longer a co-worker; knew what she wanted and made no bones about going for it. I suspect we’re going to see more along those lines in the not-so-distant future. Sure hope she doesn’t suffocate him first…
I’ve had that happen way too many times to me. I’m their best friend when they’re alone but when they’re in a relationship I may as well be on the other side of the moon. Of course as soon as it crashes and burns, who do they crawl back to begging for advice?
I say this, boyfriends/girlfriends come and go, but real good friends who’d drive through the middle of the night to pick you up cause your newly ex’d just dropped you off on the side of the road and drove off….those kinds of friends are one in a million and worth their weight in gold.
Those friends don’t need a SO, so they’ll forget you’re ignoring them…they need a little bit of that same devoted friendship given back to them.
Sure, the infatuation stage in a new relationship is awesome, but come on…a 10 minute call or a 5 second text isn’t too much to ask once in a while to keep in contact with your friends. Cause if this new relationship goes balls up, you’re sure gonna wish you had friends who’d cry with you, bring you chocolate icecream at 2am and watch sad sappy movies with while you heal your heart.
Uhg. Agreed Chug. Randie is perfectly capable of making her own life. (She does have other friends/interest) She doesn’t need them playing matchmaker, she just needs to know that her friend still cares about her. That doesn’t mean obsessive amounts of time. It means meaningful bouts of time. Like a coffee every now and then/
My bestie got into a relationship and she would never do this. Plus, even in the infatuation stage, she never ever ditched me if we had plans. (Even though I was paranoid that she would for awhile.) It doesn’t have to be the way everyone says it is.
I mean how insulting. Here’s a boy friend, now leave us alone.
Not much to comment here, all of my ‘relationships’ have either been work or just distractions, so I don’t see anything wrong with temp relationship distractions being thrown at others too. Of course, I think Ryan and Squish are trying for a more permanent hitch, which is unknown waters to me.
Squiddies… goodness… You all seem to think Squish is (caution:strong word) “malicious” in her suggesting that Randie need a boyfriend. I will not steer you away from such thinking… nor will I agree… I will let you decide by the storyline itself. I will only say that I have been in that boat, too, where your friend gets into a romance and leaves you behind a little…. or a lot.
But then again, I have been on the opposite end, too… where my time and attentions go to my love interest… Part of me believes that it is human nature. As an artist person, I tend to throw myself into art/relationships/activities with my whole being. THAT is artist human nature, I think.
I agree Chug, not malicious, but definitely oblivious….and she’s in that new relationship bubble where everything that occurs in life and other friendships ect is either kept out of the bubble or dragged kicking and screaming into the bubble, possibly via smothering them with potential dates/bfs/gfs.
Nothing couples love more then make others be couples too…lol
I think it’s kinda messed up that Squish’s response isn’t ‘don’t make me your life, spend more time with your friends’ and more ‘lets get her a distraction she may not even want so she quits whining’. One should never completely abandon one’s friends simply because of a new romance!
It is standard procedure. It’s also really annoying when they decide that what you need is your own SO to take up your time so you won’t notice your friendship dying.
Sounds to me like Squish is a bit on the possessive side… She went right for Rye-bread the second he was no longer a co-worker; knew what she wanted and made no bones about going for it. I suspect we’re going to see more along those lines in the not-so-distant future. Sure hope she doesn’t suffocate him first…
I’ve had that happen way too many times to me. I’m their best friend when they’re alone but when they’re in a relationship I may as well be on the other side of the moon. Of course as soon as it crashes and burns, who do they crawl back to begging for advice?
I say this, boyfriends/girlfriends come and go, but real good friends who’d drive through the middle of the night to pick you up cause your newly ex’d just dropped you off on the side of the road and drove off….those kinds of friends are one in a million and worth their weight in gold.
Those friends don’t need a SO, so they’ll forget you’re ignoring them…they need a little bit of that same devoted friendship given back to them.
Sure, the infatuation stage in a new relationship is awesome, but come on…a 10 minute call or a 5 second text isn’t too much to ask once in a while to keep in contact with your friends. Cause if this new relationship goes balls up, you’re sure gonna wish you had friends who’d cry with you, bring you chocolate icecream at 2am and watch sad sappy movies with while you heal your heart.
Uhg. Agreed Chug. Randie is perfectly capable of making her own life. (She does have other friends/interest) She doesn’t need them playing matchmaker, she just needs to know that her friend still cares about her. That doesn’t mean obsessive amounts of time. It means meaningful bouts of time. Like a coffee every now and then/
My bestie got into a relationship and she would never do this. Plus, even in the infatuation stage, she never ever ditched me if we had plans. (Even though I was paranoid that she would for awhile.) It doesn’t have to be the way everyone says it is.
I mean how insulting. Here’s a boy friend, now leave us alone.
Not much to comment here, all of my ‘relationships’ have either been work or just distractions, so I don’t see anything wrong with temp relationship distractions being thrown at others too. Of course, I think Ryan and Squish are trying for a more permanent hitch, which is unknown waters to me.
Oliver?
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Squiddies… goodness… You all seem to think Squish is (caution:strong word) “malicious” in her suggesting that Randie need a boyfriend. I will not steer you away from such thinking… nor will I agree… I will let you decide by the storyline itself. I will only say that I have been in that boat, too, where your friend gets into a romance and leaves you behind a little…. or a lot.
But then again, I have been on the opposite end, too… where my time and attentions go to my love interest… Part of me believes that it is human nature. As an artist person, I tend to throw myself into art/relationships/activities with my whole being. THAT is artist human nature, I think.
ANY HOW… Yes, where IS Oliver, Beetles?
No, no, not malicious, at least not in how I view her. Just self-centered and oblivious.
I agree Chug, not malicious, but definitely oblivious….and she’s in that new relationship bubble where everything that occurs in life and other friendships ect is either kept out of the bubble or dragged kicking and screaming into the bubble, possibly via smothering them with potential dates/bfs/gfs.
Nothing couples love more then make others be couples too…lol
Not much to say here, just that there’s a difference between reduced contact and radio silence.
amen Legacy
Heather @ 11:03,
Misery loves company.