Heh, one of my friends assumed that I had been dating my girlfriend for almost a year before we ever actually dated….
I somehow managed to miss that subtext….
Another picked up on the change in our relationship the next time she saw us. (Her cry of ‘oh my God, you two finally boinked!’ was pretty definitive. And, yes, she used the word ‘boinked’. Not just for webcomics, anymore….)
My girfriend’s cat on the other hand laid claim to me the first time we met. (‘I own two cats, but one of them you’ll never see – he hates people’. *Plop! Purrrrrr…..*)
So… some folks pick up on things like this faster than others.
The Auld Grump, the seduction took her over two years… I am VERY slow on the uptake in this regard….
I’ve generally of the mind that the best way to go about such things is skip playing silly games and ask. Then they know you’re interested, and you get an immediate response that doesn’t make you end up like, well like Mouse here.
And he really just needs to move on, it’s been made abundantly clear that Randy just isn’t interested.
By the by, it’s rather ebil of you to tease Randy X Ryan about a year ago (again!) and then just drop it completely (again!), and now this. Argh I say, Argh. =P
No married males in that room. If there was, you’d spot the guy whose spidey senses were going off that the word “cute” was being used in ANY way and he starts nervously shuffling for the exit before whatever-it-is costs him any money … or his weekend.
Mouse’s non-verbal, non-expressed-ness of his Randie Love is making things worser for him! Yes, he REALLY ought to get the courage up… and until he does, he will be miserable.
Some guys… you do have to beat them over the head … reminds me of BC… you have the guy pulling the woman by the hair… and then there’s the woman pulling the guy by the hair. Either way, I suppose.
Pass-art-by… hee hee.
And yes, a year ago, Ryan had a moment where he envisioned something … a moment of “wha-huh?!!!” If you go back to last June… you’ll see just what we’re talking about…
i think perhaps that’s where i failed. i don’t read signals. i never had the ability. if there was ever anyone interested in me, she’d have to be pretty obvious about it.
That’s how it goes: The urge for survival opposes the urge for romantic involvement. That’s why guys who do other suicidally dangerous things for fun also have more romance …before they die young, leaving a few women with a problem or two.
Sadly I’m sort of in the same boat as Firedome there. I once actually had someone at a bar I was at for a trivia thing send me a drink and my response was ‘well that was very nice, thank you.’
It wasn’t until I was about half way home that ‘…maybe I should have asked who did that…’ crossed my mind.
upon further reflection, I get where mouse is coming from. in fact, I’ve been in mouse’s exact same situation. without going into too much more detail, it ended up badly for me, as well.
Heh… my mate was pretty clueless… I had to pretty much stalk him and stake my claim to him. Everyone else caught on pretty quickly that I was interested except for him. I had to nearly hit him in the head with a brick to get the point across.
There was even one point where I was talking to him about how much I loved men with dark hair and blue eyes…
he looked a bit disappointed and said “Oh, well I’m sure you will meet one some day”. I blinked, confused and said “Um… you have dark hair and blue eyes silly”.
I was looking into those big blue eyes of his by the way. He looked at me surprised and said “Really?” With this funny puzzled look on his face, then he got up and went into the bathroom to look in the mirror. He looked back at me and said, “How weird, my eyes used to be brown, I had no idea that they were blue now.”
It was a pretty strange situation, he even showed me photos of him when he was younger and he did indeed have brown eyes back then. We don’t know when or what caused his eyes to change color, but now they are green, having changed color yet again.
Though because of the changing eye color situation it completely distracted him from the fact that I was telling him that I liked him and I had to come out even more blunt later on. We still don’t know how or why his eyes changed color like they did, I’ve never heard of anything like that happening before, or since truth be told.
I dunno… my own example of cluelessness in regards to my girlfriend includes not realizing that it was a seduction when she sat nekkid in my lap at a pagan retreat. Twice.
I just chalked it up to ‘pagans being pagans, and trying to freak the ‘dane’.
I didn’t freak… until after she told me that it was a seduction. (A quiet, internal panic – she didn’t notice.)
So, yeah, I can miss a clue when it sits naked in my lap. Twice.
Took two years and breaking up with my then girlfriend to act on it. (And even then because said ex-girlfriend pretty much beat me over the head that Megan was still interested in me. Jealousy was not what split us up – we live two hundred miles apart, it was the distance. Still on good terms, as is Megan.)
The Auld Grump, like a weird Bohemian soap opera….
Sorry Mouse. If you don’t roar sooner or later…
Heh, one of my friends assumed that I had been dating my girlfriend for almost a year before we ever actually dated….
I somehow managed to miss that subtext….
Another picked up on the change in our relationship the next time she saw us. (Her cry of ‘oh my God, you two finally boinked!’ was pretty definitive. And, yes, she used the word ‘boinked’. Not just for webcomics, anymore….)
My girfriend’s cat on the other hand laid claim to me the first time we met. (‘I own two cats, but one of them you’ll never see – he hates people’. *Plop! Purrrrrr…..*)
So… some folks pick up on things like this faster than others.
The Auld Grump, the seduction took her over two years… I am VERY slow on the uptake in this regard….
I’ve generally of the mind that the best way to go about such things is skip playing silly games and ask. Then they know you’re interested, and you get an immediate response that doesn’t make you end up like, well like Mouse here.
And he really just needs to move on, it’s been made abundantly clear that Randy just isn’t interested.
By the by, it’s rather ebil of you to tease Randy X Ryan about a year ago (again!) and then just drop it completely (again!), and now this. Argh I say, Argh. =P
No married males in that room. If there was, you’d spot the guy whose spidey senses were going off that the word “cute” was being used in ANY way and he starts nervously shuffling for the exit before whatever-it-is costs him any money … or his weekend.
Hmmmm… just a pass-art by? Or a new character?
Hmmmmmmmmmm…
Ah, the possibilities. A new boyfriend? Or a pass-art by who galvanizes Mouse?
Well, it’s Mouse’s own fault for not making his move.
GW,
“Cute” was confined to thought bubbles.
You all make me happy…
Mouse’s non-verbal, non-expressed-ness of his Randie Love is making things worser for him! Yes, he REALLY ought to get the courage up… and until he does, he will be miserable.
Some guys… you do have to beat them over the head … reminds me of BC… you have the guy pulling the woman by the hair… and then there’s the woman pulling the guy by the hair. Either way, I suppose.
Pass-art-by… hee hee.
And yes, a year ago, Ryan had a moment where he envisioned something … a moment of “wha-huh?!!!” If you go back to last June… you’ll see just what we’re talking about…
i think perhaps that’s where i failed. i don’t read signals. i never had the ability. if there was ever anyone interested in me, she’d have to be pretty obvious about it.
interesting. mouse tends to miss so many social signals to and around him, but this came in loud and clear.
That’s how it goes: The urge for survival opposes the urge for romantic involvement. That’s why guys who do other suicidally dangerous things for fun also have more romance …before they die young, leaving a few women with a problem or two.
Sadly I’m sort of in the same boat as Firedome there. I once actually had someone at a bar I was at for a trivia thing send me a drink and my response was ‘well that was very nice, thank you.’
It wasn’t until I was about half way home that ‘…maybe I should have asked who did that…’ crossed my mind.
Many facepalms were then had.
…wait, that’s a GUY?! Or is there some sort of surprise ‘Crying Game’ twist coming up?
upon further reflection, I get where mouse is coming from. in fact, I’ve been in mouse’s exact same situation. without going into too much more detail, it ended up badly for me, as well.
Heh… my mate was pretty clueless… I had to pretty much stalk him and stake my claim to him. Everyone else caught on pretty quickly that I was interested except for him. I had to nearly hit him in the head with a brick to get the point across.
There was even one point where I was talking to him about how much I loved men with dark hair and blue eyes…
he looked a bit disappointed and said “Oh, well I’m sure you will meet one some day”. I blinked, confused and said “Um… you have dark hair and blue eyes silly”.
I was looking into those big blue eyes of his by the way. He looked at me surprised and said “Really?” With this funny puzzled look on his face, then he got up and went into the bathroom to look in the mirror. He looked back at me and said, “How weird, my eyes used to be brown, I had no idea that they were blue now.”
It was a pretty strange situation, he even showed me photos of him when he was younger and he did indeed have brown eyes back then. We don’t know when or what caused his eyes to change color, but now they are green, having changed color yet again.
Though because of the changing eye color situation it completely distracted him from the fact that I was telling him that I liked him and I had to come out even more blunt later on. We still don’t know how or why his eyes changed color like they did, I’ve never heard of anything like that happening before, or since truth be told.
Though 23 years later, we are still together.
I dunno… my own example of cluelessness in regards to my girlfriend includes not realizing that it was a seduction when she sat nekkid in my lap at a pagan retreat. Twice.
I just chalked it up to ‘pagans being pagans, and trying to freak the ‘dane’.
I didn’t freak… until after she told me that it was a seduction. (A quiet, internal panic – she didn’t notice.)
So, yeah, I can miss a clue when it sits naked in my lap. Twice.
Took two years and breaking up with my then girlfriend to act on it. (And even then because said ex-girlfriend pretty much beat me over the head that Megan was still interested in me. Jealousy was not what split us up – we live two hundred miles apart, it was the distance. Still on good terms, as is Megan.)
The Auld Grump, like a weird Bohemian soap opera….
@Beetles: hence the spidey sense – been married long enough you just FEEL it 😀
Usually feels either like you’re getting queasy, or there’s a pain near wherever you keep your wallet, depending on the situation.